The ecstasy in her voice amused us when we spoke with Shweta Tiwari minutes after she got divorced with Raja Chaudhary on Wednesday. "Today I'm really happy as I've finally got divorced; I wish to speak my mind," chuckled Shweta who's been rather reticent about sharing notes on her personal life. The way she yields up her emotions suggests how she's been coveting this feeling of emancipation for long. Here're the excerpts of a tete-a-tete between NT and Shweta Tiwari...
It's very rare to see somebody's so delighted to have got a divorce... You must have been through hell. Oh yes, I've been through hell! In fact, I must tell you it's been seven years of marriage, followed by six years of fighting for divorce. So, it was 13-14 years of vanvaas, which I've finally come out from. Even after getting separated after seven years of marital bond-age with Raja, the following six years have been full of the same ruckus as he would still haunt me, trouble me incessantly; he was never out of my life. So, I was really desperate to get divorce to keep him away from my life. Now after the court's decree, our worlds have separated; and I'm sure he will not be able to trouble me any more.
On the face of it, Raja has seemingly accepted it happily, but aren't you afraid of any kind of relapse from his side, considering his short temper and fickle-mindedness? You know, earlier I was married to him; and as both of our houses were in our joint names, he had a right to come home. Another pretext he had to visit us was to meet our daughter Palak. Now I've given one house to him and kept the other one for myself, on which he has no legal right; he promised in the court that he would not meet Palak if I gave him a house. So, earlier he had a sort of licence to trouble me, and now that licence has been taken away.
Isn't it alimony of sorts, given the impression that both of your properties were bought from your earnings? Yeah, people say that it's kind of alimony only, but then legally he had an equal right over the properties as it was in our joint names. It's true that both the houses were bought from my earnings as he never earned any money. While I worked hard to make money, he was the one who would go around buying properties from my earnings, so he insisted on registering them in our joint names (to technically become the co-owner). And he had his way. During the divorce proceedings, we made him two offers, either take a house, which would be co-owned by our daughter Palak, or to take the sole ownership rights of a house, and stay away from Palak; he immediately lapped up the latter one. He wanted to take one house to go away from our lives. And I bought peace for my daughter and myself at this cost.
What's your daughter's reaction to your divorce? She's also been troubled a lot because of your marital disturbances... Palak, who has just turned 12 on eighth of this month, has witnessed atrocities doled out to me by her father; he has beaten me up and harassed me many times in front of her. But, she always had a hope that her father loved her as she would watch Raja on television, making all the false claims about me not letting him meet his daughter and how much he loved her. Now when Raja has proved that all that was humbug by preferring a property over his daughter, Palak will have to come to terms with this sad reality.
As you've faced a lot of domestic violence, you may be having an opinion about Gulabi Gang - a group of women under the commandership of Sampat Pal - which has now taken law in its own hands to 'punish oppressive men carrying out domestic violence.' If our police (or law) can bail out the oppressed women from their torturous plight, then I don't support these Gulabi Gangs at all. But, I think fear factor of the Gulabi Gang can serve as a strong deterrent to the harassing husbands of many women, who, despite being physically assaulted by their husbands, don't want to take the matter to police or courts, because of which they keep on lumping their misery. (Laughs) Also, earlier if I was aware of their existence, I would have also approached them and requested, 'Gulabi Gang, please come to my rescue and make him (Raja) gulabi!'
You are planning to tie the knot with your love Abhinav Kohli... Any caution you wish to exercise this time? When I got married to Raja in 1999, I was 19; I was too young to understand that he was not the right guy for me. Your husband should be able to respect you; he cannot be financially dependent on his wife. I just thought you only need to like a person to marry him, which's quite naive. My mother opposed Raja as my choice, but I didn't listen to her. I got introduced to Raja through Rachna didi (Raja's cousin sister), and within three months, I found myself married to this guy. I should have waited for some more years to take a call on marriage. And now I think I'm old enough to decide upon a good life partner (laughs). I see a good partner in Abhinav, but I need to take some time as I'm just out of a harrowing marriage. I'm just divorced and wish to enjoy my single status. And even he is not in hurry.
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